Bullying isn’t just for school kids on the playground.
Andrew Faas, a former senior executive with Canada’s two largest retail organizations, found this out the hard way when he blew the whistle on a corrupt colleague, and subsequently had his phone and email hacked and even received an anonymous death threat.
To help others, Faas says in his new book, “ The Bully’s Trap,” any worker being hired or promoted in a supervisory position should be required to take a psychological test.
A psychopath may not show all he signs, but they will likely demonstrate at least some of them, Faas says.
Here are 13 sign that one of your coworkers may be a psychopath, from Hare’s checklist, Faas, and articles we found on Psychology Today:
Natalie Walters contributed to a previous version of this article.
They have sadistic motives and intents
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“I think the most telling sign is their sadistic nature,” Faas says.
A psychopath motivates others through fear, rather than respect, he says, and they intend to destroy rather than correct.
This one characteristic is what separates psychopaths from a boss or coworker who is simply “firm,” he says.
“I’ve led and managed workforces that are in the thousands, and I’ve always been and still am a very demanding leader, but I motivate through respect because I want people to improve,” Faas says.
They’re glib and constantly turn on the superficial charm
Psychopaths are masters at presenting themselves well.
They are great conversationalists who can easily sprinkle chit-chat with witty comebacks and “unlikely but convincing” stories that make them look good, writes Hare in a post on Psychology Today.
Confronted with such charm, you may believe that the psychopath is a decent – delightful, even – person by the end of the conversation.
Hare writes that one of his raters once interviewed a male prisoner who threw in some compliments about her appearance, and by the end of the interview she felt unusually pretty.
“When I got back outside, I couldn’t believe I’d fallen for a line like that,” she said.
They have a grandiose estimation of self
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Psychopaths see themselves as the center of the universe, writes Hare, on Psychology Today. They are so important in their minds that they believe other people are just tools to be used.